Saturday, May 13, 2017

Raising Spoiled Children

@sleeping should be easy


As a parent we all wonder if we are doing the right things raising our children. I know that as a parent raising 3 kids ages 1-14 with one on the way I think a lot about how my children will be once they are grown up. Have I taught them everything they need to know to make it out in this crazy world, have I taught them to be a good human being, did I raise them to know wrong from right. We all want to say "oh, no my child wouldn't do that" or "my child is a good kid" but in reality that's not always true. Our children as much as we would like to believe it are not perfect. It is not our job to make them perfect, our job as parents is to in still in them what it takes to be a functioning adult who is a good person that is understanding and fair. 

If there is one thing I can not stand it is a child who is spoiled. A child who acts as if they are entitled to everything and anything they want. A child who has to have the new toy that everyone is wanting. I've come across a lot of different types of children who are spoiled. What parents need to realize is you are not doing your child or children any favors by giving into them with whatever it is they may wont on this particular day. I've heard many different reasons to spoiling their children. "I want them to have what I never did growing up" " we didn't have a lot growing up" "I do not want my kids to have to work as hard as I did" Look, I get it really I do. Growing up as a kid my family didn't have much, but my Grandparents instilled into me values that I used til this day and try to instill into my children. Like working for what you want. Once your in the real world as an adult your boss isn't just going to hand you that promotion you want, you will need to work hard to show them you deserve it. Spoiling your child doesn't only hurt them when it comes to the work field but when it comes to making friends and being social. I can tell  you from being around spoiled children it is not fun. I sometimes find myself not wanting to be around them, counting down the minutes until they leave. Their whole personality is very ugly and absolutely without a doubt unpleasant to be around. The sad thing is no one wants to be around them, no one wants to play with them or be their friend and I really hate to say it but even being an adult I do not want to be around them. When your child has had issues with pretty much every person who watched them and has told you they can't watch them anymore along with the fact that they do not have very many friends I think it's time to realize you have a problem. 


Blessings,



Friday, May 12, 2017

Well, hello.

Guess what?!


We are expecting another little miracle. I'm due in October. Yes, we did just have a baby last February, he is 1 years old.

As of right now I am sitting at 17 weeks 4 days. I can not believe that I'm almost half way through this pregnancy. My how it has flown by. I think that it has gone so fast because this is without a doubt our last one. We thought Cohen would be our last one. We kinda tossed around the "idea" of having another one, but most certainly not this soon! God had other plans in mind and you know what, I'm OK with that. Children truly are a blessing. I mean as much as mine drive me crazy I could not imagine my life any other way. I truly am happy.

The bump!





Blessings,



Monday, March 20, 2017

Broken.

Feeling really broken right now. I feel very lost in my faith right now. I'm trying to hold myself together trying to make sense of things. I guess we really don't know the struggles that others are going through. That whole saying about what goes on behind closed doors.

I wish that I could be more open to the problems and issues that I am going through, but there are very few people that I feel open with to be able to share those things with. I feel like I need to uphold a certain image. That if I open up to just anyone they will judge me. That they will treat me differently. I feel embarrassed by my imperfections, that I need to wear a mask to hide who I really am. I try to be open with my imperfections, my mistakes and my wrong doings with God. He really is the only person that I need to answer to. All the other stuff he doesn't care about. As long as I'm true to him and honest about how much I believe and love him. He loves with even with all my baggage and imperfections.

Addiction sucks.

Addiction can take everything away from you. Addiction not only hurts you but those around you. It can be anything. Even being addicted to you cell phone can be a bad thing. Putting anything above God is always bad, but also putting it above your family and friends hurts too.

The hardest part is not knowing if your ok. Not knowing where you are. I failed you. I failed as family, friend, unbiological sister. I should have been there. I KNEW I should have been there. I was too wrapped up in my own problems and family life to check on you even when I KNEW I should have. I could see little signs, at the time I didn't believe them just brushed them off, but I should have paid more attention. You need someone and I wasn't there. It breaks my heart everyday I think about it.

I just wish you knew how much I love and care for you. I wish you knew that I am here for you.

Blessings,

Friday, February 24, 2017

What I'm reading

So I've started reading this book back around my birthday, I know it's been a while. Well I'm about half way done with it. This is one of the books on my reading list. I will have a list of my books that I want to finish reading this year and hopefully finished others as well. As you probably seen on my whole new years post. I just set a goal of certain books that I've wanted to start/finish. This book was a gift giving to me from my sister in law because I wanted to homeschool my kids this year, but against my better judgement was convinced not to. I have found this book to be amazing, even if you're not home schooling your children. This book has reinforced why I dislike public schools. In reading this book I have now decided that I would really like to teach my kids at home.

I feel like I have let my 2 older children down now after reading this book. So many things I would have done differently. I feel like I have set them up for failure. My son who is going to be 14 years old and my daughter who just turned 11 years old is it too late to change the way they learn? Is it too late to teach them the ways in this book? I feel as though all my frustration with helping them with school year after year and thinking that I was teaching them the right "way" all along has some how made it impossible for them to be successful. Is this why my son has so much trouble in school? Maybe if I would have done a better job of being a parent and doing some much research on such subjects he wouldn't be struggling with things.

I guess it is true when people say that we tend to raise our children how we were raised, though there are some things that as a parent I told myself I would never do with my children. Times have changed so much since I was younger. I know that it didn't make it easy being a young mother as I was when my older son and daughter were born. I always think to myself  'if only I knew then what I know now'. I tend to lay awake thinking about them and how I wish I could go back and do things different. I feel guilty at times having a new child that the things I know now and have learned over the years only help him to succeed and flourish, while my older children have missed out. By no means is our new addition anymore important than they are. You learn and grow.

As the book say's is it too late to try and rewire their way of learning? I guess I won't know until I try and my children's education and success is very important to me. I encourage anyone with children especially with little children to read this book. Whether you wish to have your children attend public school, private school or home school this book is amazing in helping your children learn, also giving you ways to help encourage learning for your children. In reading this you will completely rethink how your children learn and how you should be teaching them. It all makes sense though, I've seen some of the examples as to how the children he talked about in this book have reacted to how my children have reacted. I am by no means bashing schools and their way of teaching, I just feel there is a lot lacking and that maybe the school systems should be rethought. Also understand that they are trying to teach a big class and having to teach in a certain way that not every child learns the same way. Which just further makes my point about wanting to home school my children. This is my option. So if you haven't you should definitely read this book!

Blessings,





Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Motivation

I need to be a lot more motivated than I am. What do people do to keep motivated? I thought of pinning photos of really fit people on my frig and bulletin board so that everytime I look at them i would be reminded that I need to walk the dog, do yoga or go for a run. I guess if it is in my face over and over and everywhere I look then maybe I won't forget.

I'm really bad at counting calories, I have an app on my phone call fitness pal that I used all the time, but now that my phone doesn't work anymore I can't use my app. I really liked it because I can scan what I eat or drink and it does all the work for me. I hate to sound like I'm trying to be lazy about counting calories and such but I need things that will be fast and easy. I also loved the fact that I could connect my fitness pal to my workout app so that I could track when and how much I walk, run or workout. It would add it to my fitness pal and do the calculations for me. It made it easy to keep track of my workouts. The best part about the app is it would remind me if I haven't logged my info for the day. That's what I need, I need to be reminded. If I don't make myself reminders I always for get.

Is this sad? Is it sad that I need to be reminded to do things? I mean have I completely lost my mind. How can I be so forgetful? I never use to be, I think it's the children. It seems to me the more I had the more I couldn't remember things like I use to.

I will be motivated to complete AT least one thing on my list.

Blessings,